Mom passed away on March 25th, 2025. I'm sad, of course, but because I've been grieving her for over 4 years now, I don't "miss her" in a visceral, sharp-edge-of-grief way. I hadn't had a meaningful conversation with her in years. She kept her Stage 4 Renal failure under control for a long time, but her toxic blood finally caught up with her and her body could no longer fight. She decided years ago that she wouldn't go on Dialysis - she didn't want to be dependent on a machine. I haven't written her obituary yet - though I started and the stupid website I was using didn't save what I'd written. I'll do another one - it was just frustrating. I also will do a video of pictures as a tribute.
There's a new chapter starting for me. This chapter is only possible because of the hard work himself did, and money he saved. I have had 6 months of rampant spending - some things were necessary (his care, the house remodel could have waited, but I'm really glad I decided to go through with it); some things were not... I'm now going to sit down with trusted friends to see how much money there is and how to budget it until I'm of full retirement age. I want to put my side hustle plans in place - and bug out of Arizona Heat from mid-April until mid-September or even October. To put my dreams/fantasies of having a camper van and visiting friends and family to reconnect and see parts of America I've not seen before.
I'm still decluttering - and with travel adventures on my mind - I'm making stricter decisions on what is staying and what is going. Lots of plans, lots of necessary death-related tasks still to do (bank accounts, phone account, subscriptions, credit cards...). It's time to set a date - and make some SMART goals. To be able to drive out of my driveway mid-April 2026 with an outline of an itinerary and a comfortable yet simple set up in a camper van with Harley-Girl. YouTube? Blog? Yes... all part of the plan(s).
There's tech to learn so I can start my side-hustles. Music to learn, ukulele to learn and guitar to practice. Routine so I can get it all done... starting backward.
Goal Date to leave in 2026: Wednesday, April 15th, 2026. After Easter, which is Sunday 4/5/2026. And if I want to go see one of my best friends in Texas before the anniversary of her oldest child and my namesake's death; leaving on the 15th gives me time to do that.
Back in town - *if the weather is cool enough* - on or about September 21st, which is World Gratitude Day.
If I'm going to TRU Harmony's Retreat, that is usually end of May - beginning of June, probably to be held again in the south; and then, before it gets ridiculously hot, I can head up and to the west coast to see my California, Oregon and Washington friends.
Things I need to make a habit of:
Sticking to a routine
Staying within a budget
Stretching Daily
Eating Healthy - simple! But planned.
Writing - 100 words a day
Singing - learning new music, learning
Decluttering
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